It’s a well-known, and well-researched, fact that we see what we go looking for, hear what we go listening for, and feel what we expect to experience (and so on). It’s how our brains work. So it should come as no surprise that we find imperfections in ourselves if that’s all we focus on. For a lot of us, it is much easier to find the cracks and faults.
If your focus is on what is wrong, if you are busy looking for the flaws and weaknesses in your character, you are weighing yourself down just as surely as if you were going through life carrying a big backpack full of rocks – and every day the backpack just gets heavier. It is no wonder that your mental and emotional “back” is bent under the strain.
Of course, if you are a world-class negative thinker, then the weight of your burden becomes just one more thing with which to find fault. On the other hand, if you spend most of your time looking for and appreciating all that is right or delightful about yourself and the world around you – and make no mistake, there are thousands of delights in this world once you start looking for them – it is as if you had diamonds in your pockets.
To get a quick read on where your focus is, list all your shortcomings and all your strengths on a piece of paper. Take your time and make sure you cover as much as possible. Once you have finished both lists, look to see if you used a double standard. Did you list as weaknesses those things that are occasionally true about you or always true? On the other hand, did you list strengths that are almost always true or just occasionally true? Depending upon what you find, you may be stacking the cards against yourself.
If you replace your old programming that says it is better to haul rocks than diamonds, and start affirming your strengths instead, your life will be so much richer! Think of what it will do to your emotional and physical well-being! And you couldn’t find a better day to start than today.