Controlling the Effectors

pair of brown leather boots in pavement

Our thoughts have a huge effect on how we cope with the world around us, on a daily basis. In fact, our thoughts are the primary “effectors” in our lives. Consider this: There are some things that don’t really exist. There are no bad days. There are no boring books or uninteresting magazines, mind-numbing jobs or ugly shoes.

Now why would anyone, in their right mind, say that there is no such thing as a bad day or a pair of ugly shoes? Shakespeare had this idea in mind when he said, “Nothing is good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” You see, if those shoes were truly ugly, every single person we asked would say, “Yes, that is ugly” and the shoe company would go out of business. But what are the chances of that happening? Not very big.

And if the day was truly bad, then no one could possibly have a good day on that date, could they? And even if two people share the very same experience on the same day, one of them may call it bad and the other one may say, “Now wait a minute. There is another way to look at it.”

And that is exactly the point. There is always another way of looking at things. So, why in the world would you voluntarily choose a way that is negative, devaluing or one that makes you feel bad? You do have the ability to control your thoughts and your emotions, and you can put that ability to work to shift the way you react to situations that cross your path.

The first step is believing that not only is it possible to shift your perspective, but that it is possible for you to make that shift. And when you feel you can do it, then you try. And the more you try, the better you get at it. Negative feelings that once dominated you can be made to go away, and the time it takes you to banish them will grow shorter and shorter. Until one day, you may surprise yourself by saying, “You know, I cannot remember the last time I really felt angry or depressed!” Yes, it is possible. Believe it.

And you have the power to make it so.