It has been said that people can get used to almost anything. Over this past year, we’ve gotten use to wearing facial masks, and washing our hands, to protect ourselves and those around us from the coronavirus. This started out as something most of us weren’t used to, but over time, it has become normal. When you get used to things being a certain way, you develop what we call a “comfort zone,” which is pretty much just what it sounds like.
If you are used to cleaning up your house every day because you like things neat and tidy, you will be uncomfortable when the sink is full of dishes. You will experience tension until you restore order. On the other hand, if you are used to a pile of dirty dishes in the sink, it won’t bother you at all – unless, of course, you are expecting company. Then, the things you have gotten used to and comfortable with may suddenly become very un-comfortable. “That’s OK for me,” you may think, “but I don’t want my company to see it like that!”
People, who go on crash diets before the school reunion, or clean out their car before they pick up the boss, are doing the same sort of thing. But think about it – aren’t you worth the same considerations as your visiting friends or the boss? Don’t you deserve to live by the same high standards that you adopt to impress others? (The answer is, “Yes” by the way, to both questions.)
Take a look at your life. What have you gotten used to over time that you never really meant to have happen? If you want to change your comfort zone for the better and raise your internal standards to include yourself, correct use of affirmations and imagery can be a great help. What do you want your world to look like? Why do you want it to look that way? (The answer is, “Yes” to these questions, as well.)
If you need a little help and support, tell the people close to you what you are trying to do, and stick with it. (By the way, giving a shout-out to the positive changes you see in yourself can only help you. That internal “fist pump” mini-movie in your head does wonders to reinforce your progress and self-worth.)