Do you know someone, perhaps they sit in the same chair you do, who seems to “play a part” when it comes to their interactions with others, rather than just being themselves? They mimic a chameleon, changing personalities instead of changing colors, depending upon who they are with and where they are.
Most likely, you have met or known individuals who hide behind masks in order to get through the day. This has become a survival mechanism for them. The mask betrays the good-hearted human beings the world deserves to know. You might even have met or known people who, when faced with the opportunity to do a little self-reflection, need to talk about themselves in the third person, in order to get some perspective.
What most is needed is for these folks to be honest with themselves. That alarm in our minds that goes off when we are faking it, or being phony, is our conscience reminding us that we are going against who we really are. We are denying our true selves because we think we are “less than” we should be. The challenge is, if we continue to deny our true selves, our mind adapts and the phony self we portray becomes the true self. And that’s OK, if the “act” we portray is who we really want to be. You see, our minds are that powerful.
If we truly do not like our character, then we can take action to change it. If need be, find individuals with the qualities that we want to have. We want to define these characteristics clearly, then go from admiration to assimilation, using the affirmation and visualization processes to change our internal pictures.
We do not need to portray anyone other than who we are. We have the freedom to make the choice of positive, contributive change when who we are isn’t who we want to be.